Day 24

Today was the day of the Memorial gathering. A day of gratitude.

His friends, teachers, bandmates, classmates, friend’s parents, family, all shared their love for him, more for who he was than for his achievements. The first thing that stood out for me was his ability to relate with everyone, be it his head-master or a stranger on the street, a young child or a grown up, a shy girl or a salesperson.  That is the definition of spirituality – to be able to relate to everyone. He once said to me that he had a ‘confused spirituality’. How wrong he was! He practised it to perfection without knowing the theory of it.

The second, was his ability to have fun and make time for people. Some people who had only met him briefly remembered him for his generosity of spirit. It once again made me think about what is important.

Yet again, I felt so proud of him. More than words can say. So blessed to have had him with me for 20 whole years! How lucky am I? He holds such a special place in so many hearts that he will always be here.

Paulo Coelho writes:

” When everything has been told and retold countless times,

When the places I have visited, the things I have experienced,

The steps I have taken because of her (him) are all transformed into distant memories,

Nothing will remain but pure love. ”

That is what we celebrated today. Pure love!

10 thoughts on “Day 24

  1. Hi Sangeeta
    I have been keeping up with your blog – a very difficult time for you and hope you are taking care of yourself .You artculate your emotions and thoughts so beautifully . I shared your blog with my book club group and they send you their prayers .
    Take care

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    • Thank you Jyotika.
      I have taken some time off work and am in India at present with all my family. Not sure how I am doing. I have had a few good days and I am grateful for them.
      Please thank all your friends on my behalf for their thoughts and prayers.
      Lots of love,


  2. Dear loved ones of Saagar,

    I thought of your son today even though I have never met him. I saw a picture of him on my friend Vandita’s FB page and through that learned of his passing on. His smile and love, as he holds Vandita’s son, comes through in the photo! Such a coincidence to read this blog a few hours after he came to my mind this morning. Sending you all prayers for peace.



    • Dear Sonal,

      Thank you very much! Every now and then I am peaceful but these stretches are short. Hopefully with time, deeper meditations and all the prayers working, they will get longer.
      Lots of love,


  3. My sweet friend with the gentle voice and gentle smile..
    sagar was one of the most amazing young people I have ever met..His laughing eyes, a soul as gentle as yours….wagamama’s that late summer night, laughter,such special memories….He touched my life…I wish you strength as the days pass…deepest heartfelt condolences.


    • Dear Yvonne,
      Thank you for your thoughts. I miss him so much. I have no idea how I will ever get used to the idea of not seeing him ever again. I hope he is happy wherever he is.
      Thank you for your love and friendship.
      Big hug,


      • Dear sangeeta…i read your blog so often …my eyes and heart filled with unshed tears…your loss and your amazing courage …as you go on..i did come to london in feb and i wanted to call you but i didnt because i didnt want to start crying on the phone and make you sad…you and sagar are in my thoughts daily…and in my prayers….i will be coming to london in october..i am going to call you this time….i promise…nadine has your number…in the meantime..lots of love and big hugs…yvonne

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      • Hi Yvonne. Thanks for your message and for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers. I look forward to seeing you in October. Big hugs to you too. Lots of love, Sangeeta. xxx


  4. Sangeeta,
    thank you for sharing your blog with me. Reading through it I am so touched by it all. I am a mother myself, to a 19 year old young man. There is no words I know and even though I have a son I can’t say I know what you are going through… but I wanted to send you a hug from mother to mother and let you know that I have thought about you and your dear son so much today, and wherever he is he knows how much you love him.


    • Dear Jo.

      Thankyou for taking the time to read yhe blog. I think these are stressful times for young people as they are surrounded by negativity on all sides and we cannot imagine what that must be like for a growing child.
      Thank you for the hug! I look forward to seeing you soon and exchanging that hug in person.
      Lots of love,


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