Wrap-around?

“What can we do to offer wrap-around care to our patients?”

In the live Q&A at the end of the NCISH conference yesterday, this question was asked of the panel. The Chairperson directed it towards me. I can’t remember what I said. This morning I woke up with what I would have liked to say.

For wrapping, we need two things. One, the fabric which we are going to use to wrap and the person we want to wrap. Let’s discuss them one by one.

  1. The fabric

The fabric of Suicide prevention in Health-Care is made up of two things – people and systems. Let’s look at them a bit closely.

  1. People

What are the beliefs of the people?

I know of an ENT surgeon from another country who wanted to move to the UK and the only job he could find was in Psychiatry. So, he is now training to be a Psychiatrist. Is he interested in suicide prevention? Do Health-care professionals believe that suicides are preventable? Are they content that simply by treating mental illness they are doing their job?

What are the attitudes and abilities of the people?

When the Emergency department calls to say there is a suicidal individual waiting to be seen, how do they feel? Are they excited to have an opportunity to make a difference? Or is it a drain on the limited time and energy they have? Do they know how to build a compassionate connection with someone who has lost all hope? Have they received any training in Suicide Prevention? Do they have enough self-compassion to look after someone else well?

Do they have the resources and the knowledge to do a good job?

Do they have access to their past history? Do they have beds on the ward? Can they ask a colleague for a second opinion if they have a doubt about how to involve family or friends in their care? Do they know of other resources, like charities, activities and people that may help this person? Do they have comprehensive and informative leaflet they can share with them? Do they have the means to follow them up?

b. Systems

Does the system have capacity? Are the various parts of the system effective and joint-up enough to be able to hold the person they are trying to wrap or are there big holes in this part of the fabric? Do the various parts of the system share the same mental model, a shared knowledge, pre-suppositions, and beliefs that can be used to help achieve mutual goals? Are their practices evidence- based? Do they investigate deaths with a view to learn lessons and implement change? Do they look after the well-being and emotional health of their employees? Do they hold themselves accountable when things go wrong?

2. The person

Allowing space for them to express themselves. Help maintain their sense of agency. Inform them it is safer for them to involve other people who care for them. Equip them with resources. Give them the support they need. Ask them what would help them? Listen. Sit with their despair. Acknowledge it. Keep them connected with their life as they know it. Keep hope alive for them.

Know that the person at the centre of the wrapping is of great value.

Information is useful if it becomes knowledge. Knowledge is useful when it becomes wisdom. So, let us not stop at information.

Ref:

Reaching common ground: The role of shared mental models in patient safety : https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2516043518805326

Writing cues…

I don’t like to gossip but…

I shouldn’t really say this but…

I’m really sorry but…

It’s none of my business but…

I don’t mean to be difficult but…

I know this sounds judgmental but…

I don’t mean to pry but …

I know it’s selfish but …

I don’t think you’re fat but …

I don’t mean this to be offensive but…

My husband is a real darling but…

I’m not a racist but…

I know it’s awkward but…

Everyone loves my dad but…

I think she’s adorable but …

It’s not about how old you are but…

So many years have passed but… I was invited to speak at a national conference last month. I said yes.

National Confidential Inquiry into Suicide and Safety in Mental health (NCISH) 11th Annual conference on the 8th of May 2025 at 10 am UK time. This year the focus is on people who had been in contact with Mental Health services within a year of their death. It’s free, short and online.

Registration : Here

Delegates booklet: Delegate Booklet 

Recent report: Recent NCISH Report.

Who’s the boss?

Did you know there’s an organisation that brings science and spirituality together? Its mission is to create a kinder, heart-centered world where we care for one another and live harmoniously. It’s called the HeartMath Institute and offers many free resources.

They have found that the heart is not just a mechanical pump. It contains thousands of nerve cells. That is probably the reason our memories and trauma are stored in various parts of our body, mainly the brain and heart.

We were taught in school that the brain is a master-organ but it’s the heart that tells it what to do. The intelligence of creativity, innovation and intuition resides in the cells of the heart. Brain neurons are the antennae that follow the heart’s desires. For example, I want to speak and understand Spanish says the heart. The brain follows.

We humans have a stunning ability to self-regulate. Our biology is engineered as a soft technology. Our fundamental physiology is made up of ion-potentials across membranes. We’re the only form of life that can harmonise its two major neural organs through Heart-Brain Coherence. We can alter the chemistry in our bodies. Once this coherence occurs, we can heal and be healthy. The immune system is strengthened, longevity enzymes rise and stress is reduced at a molecular level. Three minutes of this shift can produce beneficial effects for 6 hours.

3 steps:

  1. Shift in focus – into the heart
  2. Shift in breath – slow it so the exhalation is longer than the inhalation
  3. Shift in feeling – a positive feeling – initiate Gratitude on demand.

We are powerful self-regulators. It is a God-like ability that we have, to heal ourselves. We’re conditioned to feel helpless and think we need external help. Sometimes we do need interventions, but we can honour the gift of this body to heal ourselves.

Let there be joy, peace and colour!

Mandalas draw me into their whorls. A casual glance is never enough. My gaze gets fixated on each one and I lose myself in the movement and the stillness in that form. The patterns seem to be spontaneous and well thought through, calm and dynamic, chaotic and yet, organised. The literal meaning of the word is, a sacred circle and it feels like one.

A random advert on YouTube and I was at the local stationery shop buying a geometry box. I needed a compass and a protractor for the Mandala Workshop I had signed up for. I was excited at the prospect of making one but also worried about making a mess of it. My artistic abilities are fairly limited but I am a good doodler. Many a lengthy-phone-call have produced intricate henna-esque patterns on the handiest bit of paper loitering on my table.

The first thing the facilitator said was, today you will draw your Universe. Don’t erase anything. There are no mistakes. You will see, everything has a place, even the so called ‘mistakes’. So, erase nothing. It’s not about producing a beautiful piece of art. It’s about the process. After making the grid, she had us light a candle and guided us through a grounding exercise. Then she played a mellow piano tune and asked us to start from the centre of the circle and work outwards with a black uniball pen. No rules. No meaning. No right. No wrong. No special colours or materials. Just allow whatever wants to appear on the page to appear.

She said this practice can heal us as it opens the heart, takes place in the moment and is non-judgemental. Watch your inner critic coming at you pointing its index finger. Ignore it and carry on. Smile 🙂