Day 404

Tutors and staff at universities struggle with the issue of confidentiality with regards to their students who are suffering with mental distress. While they are not trained counselors, they have the best interest of their students in mind. Yet, they are not allowed to take the parents of these students in confidence in the name of confidentiality.

Confidentiality is a foundational ethical standard for health professionals. It is the ethical duty to fulfill the promise that client information received during therapy will not be disclosed without authorization. It becomes a legal concern if broken, whether intentionally or not.

What if not breaking confidentiality leads to harm?
There are exceptions.

Confidentiality does not apply when disclosure is required to prevent clear and imminent danger to the client.
Protecting the client from harm must supercede the harm to the relationship that may happen due to a breach of confidentiality.

BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy) Ethical Framework says:

“Situations in which clients pose a risk of causing serious harm to themselves or others are particularly challenging for the practitioner. These are situations in which the practitioner should be alert to the possibility of conflicting responsibilities between those concerning their client, other people who may be significantly affected, and society generally. Resolving conflicting responsibilities may require due consideration of the context in which the service is being provided. Consultation with a supervisor or experienced practitioner is strongly recommended, whenever this would not cause undue delay. In all cases, the aim should be to ensure for the client a good quality of care that is as respectful of the client’s capacity for self-determination and their trust as circumstances permit.”

The GMC reiterates the importance of confidentiality in good medical practice but does not talk of suicide in particular.

Courts usually consider two fundamental issues:

  • did the professional adequately assess the likelihood that a patient was suicidal?
  •  if an identifiable risk of harm was determined, did the professional take sufficient precautions to prevent suicide?

In general, the therapist is protected from liability if they have conscientiously performed and documented a thorough evaluation, followed by carefully considered, appropriate interventions.

Early diagnosis and treatment of mental illness is key for better outcomes. Hence the staff at schools and universities should be equipped with skills and knowledge to identify such illness in students. They should be empowered to get appropriate help for them at the earliest. 

In case of disclosure of severe suicidal ideation, the safety of the ‘at risk’ person should be the only concern.

 

 

Day 396

Everyone can help prevent suicides because:

  • About 80% of the time people who kill themselves have given definite signals or talked about suicide
  • Most suicidal people don’t really want to die – they just want their pain to end

So, all one needs to know is:

  • How to identify someone at high risk (Warning signs)
  • What to do. (Intervention)

Warning Signs:

  • Observable signs of serious depression
    • Unrelenting low mood
    • Pessimism
    • Hopelessness
    • Desperation
    • Anxiety, psychic pain, inner tension
    • Withdrawal
    • Sleep problems
  • Increased alcohol and/or other drug use
  • Recent impulsiveness and taking unnecessary risks
  • Threatening suicide or expressing strong wish to die
  • Making a plan
    • Giving away prized possessions
    • Purchasing a firearm
    • Obtaining other means of killing oneself
  • Unexpected rage or anger

DSM – V – Suicide Assessment Dimension

High level of concern:

1.Living alone, chronic severe pain, or recent (within 3 months) significant loss

2.Recent psychiatric admission/discharge or first diagnosis of MDD, bipolar disorder or schizophrenia

3.Recent increase in alcohol abuse or worsening of depressive symptoms

4.Current (within last week) preoccupation with, or plans for, suicide

5.Current psychomotor agitation, marked anxiety or prominent feelings of hopelessness

What to do?

Three Basic Steps:

  1. Show you care
  2. Ask about suicide
  3. Get help
  • Step One
    • Show You Care: Take ALL talk of suicide seriously
    • If you are concerned that someone may take their life, trust your judgment!
    • Listen Carefully
    • Reflect what you hear
    • Use language appropriate for age of person involved
    • Do not worry about doing or saying exactly the “right” thing. Your genuine interest is what is most important
  • Be Genuine : Let the person know you really care.
  • Talk about your feelings and ask about his or hers.
    • “I’m concerned about you… how do you feel?“
    • “Tell me about your pain.“
    • “You mean a lot to me and I want to help.“
    • “I care about you, about how you’re holding up.“
    • “I’m on your side…we’ll get through this.”
  • Step Two

Ask About Suicide

Be direct but non-confrontational

Talking with people about suicide won’t put the idea in their heads.

Chances are, if you’ve observed any of the warning signs, they’re already thinking about it. Be direct in a caring, non-confrontational way.

Get the conversation started.

  • You do not need to solve all of the person’s problems – just engage them. Questions to ask:
    • Are you thinking about suicide?
    • What thoughts or plans do you have?
    • Are you thinking about harming yourself, ending your life?
    • How long have you been thinking about suicide?
    • Have you thought about how you would do it?
    • Do you have __? (Insert the lethal means they have mentioned)
    • Do you really want to die? Or do you want the pain to go away?
  • Ask about treatment:
    • Do you have a therapist/doctor?
    • Are you seeing him/her?
    • Are you taking your medications?
  • Step Three
    • Get help, but do NOT leave the person alone
      • Know referral resources
      • Reassure the person
      • Encourage the person to participate in helping process
      • Outline safety plan

Referral Resources

  • Resource sheet: Create referral resource sheet from your local community
    • Psychiatrists/Psychologists
    • Other Therapists
    • Family doctor/pediatrician
    • Local medical centers/medical universities
    • Local mental health services
    • Local hospital emergency room
    • Local walk-in clinics
    • Local psychiatric hospitals
  • Hotlines : Samaritans : 116123 ; NHS: 111

Reassure the person that help is available and that you will help them get help:

  • “Together I know we can figure something out to make you feel better.”
  • “I know where we can get some help.”
  • “I can go with you to where we can get help.”
  • “Let’s talk to someone who can help . . . Let’s call the crisis line now.”

Encourage the suicidal person to identify other people in their life who can also help:

  • Parent/Family Members
  • Favorite Teacher
  • School Counselor
  • School Nurse
  • Religious Leader
  • Family doctor

 Outline a safety plan

Make arrangements for the helper(s) to come to you OR take the person directly to the source of help – do NOT leave them alone!

Once therapy (or hospitalization) is initiated, be sure that the suicidal person is following through with appointments and medications.

While doing all of this, remember to take care of yourself. xxx

Day 377

Today I was visited by 2 very unwelcome guests – anger and resentment.

Anger at this whole situation!
At myself for being so ignorant, for not having picked up on any of the warning signs, for happily being in denial about the seriousness of his illness, for not asking for help, for asking for help too late and from the wrong people! I felt angry at everyone who knew he was suicidal but did not tell me because he didn’t want them to or for reasons best known to them. I felt angry at everyone he and I asked for help from and they didn’t or couldn’t. I felt outrage at the people we trusted and who let us down!

I felt furious at the ‘honorary’ consultant psychiatrist who was supposed to ‘look after’ my son. He is an academic, hence works with real patients only one day per week. The rest of the time he does research. Research is useless unless best clinical practice and better outcomes for patients are achieved. Given the proximity of South London and Maudsley Hospital to the IoPPN (Institute of Psychiatry, Psychology and Neuroscience, King’s College. London) patient care should be better there than the rest of the UK but it isn’t. Most consultants are ‘honorary’ and their main focus is research.

I felt resentful of everyone who doesn’t have to light a candle in front of their dead child’s picture everyday.

The present moment is inevitable. The present moment is inevitable, The present moment is bloody inevitable.

Day 376

Today I was introduced to a new phrase – ‘September Surge’. Apparently this term refers to the remarkable increase in workload of Mental Health services in the month of September. I don’t know why that is? I suppose my son would have been part of this surge last year.

The Panorama programme on BBC last evening reported the state of crisis in Mental Health services in the UK. Over the last 3-5 years as many as 3000 inpatient beds have been closed down while the demand has been steadily on the rise. Often there are ‘no beds’ even for emergency admissions. As a desperate measure the least unwell patients have to be discharged from the wards even when they are not quite ready. Or else, some patients are referred to the Private sector, which is also getting saturated.

Staff members dealing with this shortfall in resources seem really concerned for their patients. Their heart is very much in the right place and one can see the frustration this daily fire fighting causes them. The impact of working under so much pressure everyday must put a huge strain on their sense of wellbeing as well. The wide gap between how things should be and how they are must make them feel highly inadequate and demotivated for no fault of their own.

What is the long-term view on funding the mental health services? Is there one?

Last week we got a new ‘robot’ for our operating theatres. It costs only 2 million pounds. But that is for cancer surgery, of course.
Within the last one year I personally know of at least 2 young men who have died while waiting for their first  appointment with a psychiatrist.

How can there be such disparity between services? How can we tolerate it?

Day 372

A popular opinion is that suicide is selfish.

Here is a real suicide note written by a real person. Fortunately she was not successful in completing it and now is a passionate advocate for the understanding and prevention of self-harm and suicide.

(Please do not read this if you think it might act as a trigger for you.)

“Hey everyone,

Having never read a suicide note, im not 100% sure what they’re meant to contain, apologies, explanations, recriminations? I don’t know. I guess it’s kinda up to the author. Anyway, here goes my attempt:

Firstly, I want to say i’m sorry for any and all the pain this has caused. I find it really hard to comprehend that my death will have an impact on people but logic tells me that it will so i’m sorry for any hardship i have caused. I know i have no right to ask anything of anyone but please look out for each other, especially my little sister and I won’t be there for her. There are some organisations out there who help people who know someone who has committed suicide, the Samaritans are rumoured to be particularly good.

Secondly, i want to say that this was no-one’s fault. Please do not blame yourselves or anyone else for what I have done, it was my decision, my failure and my choice, no-one could have stopped or helped me. The reason I didn’t tell anyone is that I didn’t want to be stopped, I know that is selfish but it’s also true. Also, telling someone you are suicidal does not make the feeling go away it just makes the other person worry. Please don’t torment yourselves with thoughts like ‘she tried to tell me’ because I didn’t. I worked really hard not to let anyone know what I had planned. Also for those people who still talked to me about how I was feeling, i hate to say it but i started to lie. I’m sorry for abusing your trust in this way, but I had given up and I no longer desired to be helped. I still respected you and knew that you cared and would have helped if i’d have asked but i didn’t care anymore and telling you would have been a failure in my eyes.

Thirdly I want to try and explain why I did why I did what I did in order that you might understand and that it may be of some help. Life had become unbearable for me. I hated myself so much and so uncontrollably. Anything i did i viewed as a failure and it made me sick just to look in the mirror at myself. Whenever I didn’t have to be somewhere I would hide out in my room trying to pretend that I didn’t exist in order that i didn’t have to face what a horrible person I was. When I’ve spoken to people about how I feel about myself they assure me that others don’t feel the same, however that didn’t alter the way I felt about myself, to me, the fact that I was a horrible person was fact. This hatred isn’t a new thing but it is a major contributing factor to my suicide. I think the actual decision to kill myself came when I lost hope for the future. Life would never get good enough for me to want to live it. Feeling as much of a failure as I did I didn’t see how I could achieve anything in life. When someone asked me what I wanted for my future i listed a career i could be proud of, a group of friends i felt at ease with and a partner. I know these things may all seem attainable but for me, they all seemed impossible and all i could see in my future was pain, self hatred and failure so i chose to give up. To me, at least, suicide seemed like a logical choice, if my future was going to be so wretched and no different to the self hatred of my earlier years, ending it made more sense than living at the misery and then dying 50 years later of some humiliating disease. Im not asking you to say that you’re glad that I killed myself but im hoping that you may realise that for me it was a release. For a long time, thinking of people I would be leaving behind had stopped me taking this final step and coupled with that the bad timing. But then I realised that there was never going to be a good time to leave in such a manner so I decided on my date.

Fourthly, i want to say : I love you all. There isn’t anyone in my life that if I had the chance to say this goodbye out loud i wouldn’t want to say how much I love you. Everyone I know is amazing and I hope that the kindness people have shown to me you will now show to each other and support one another through the coming months. I really am so sorry for doing this and I hope you can both forgive me and move on.

Love and hugs,

——– “

Selfish?