Day 81

“When do you think the illness started?” asked a close relative ”Was it when you and your husband separated?”

Wow! Just what I needed to hear. Thank God for the survival of political incorrectness. It is refreshing.

I really don’t know the answer to that question. Looking back, I think the early signs started showing sometime towards the end of his first year at University. As alluded to before, the lines between normal teenage behavior and early mental illness are very blurred. As per this research, also shared before, the structural changes in the brain can start to happen 10-12 years before the first symptoms:

http://www.ted.com/talks/thomas_insel_toward_a_new_understanding_of_mental_illness

Recovering from the shock of that question, I realized that this was a good opportunity to tackle 2 taboo subjects in one go. I decided to look at the co-relation between mental illness and children from broken homes. I found that the sensationalist press had articles declaring an incidence 5 times higher in ‘broken’ as opposed to ‘un-broken’ homes. The more educated publications such as the one below, although dated, gives a scientific opinion on the complex issue of causation with many different poorly understood factors playing a role:

http://www.cbsnews.com/news/broken-homes-broken-children/

I would have liked to search the literature more extensively but for the flimsy link with the world wide web.

‘Failed families’ was another term used in some studies that made me think of how we have a particular way of making people feel bad about themselves.

As for my feelings, well ….. more spilt milk. But, no more crying.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar says, “The secret to happiness is in being without desires, and in focusing on how you can serve others. The more you serve, the more happiness you will get.” This morning I came up with one concrete idea on how I could make myself useful. I have just started working on it and I already feel happy.

2 thoughts on “Day 81

  1. Did you see the bit where they spoke about the fact that the study was done in Sweden? It’s amazing how various cultures have various types of mental illness stuff and in some cases, culture bound disorders.

    Whoever asked you that question was thoughtless in the extreme.

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    • Yes John. I did. I chose this particular article because I thought it somewhat spoke for Europe and emphasised that this is a complex issue. It also highlighted the fact that it is about people and parenting skills. We all know enough homes that are unbroken on the surface but completely shatterred on the inside. Thanks for your comments. Much appreciated. xxx

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