Facebook does not mean much to me but today it was a source of immense joy. Purely by accident I opened up a whole album of his photographs with his friends. There were so many of them that I had not seen before, many in which he was playing drums with different bands, having fun with his friends or attending the university ball and so many more! It was a real treat. In all of them he was surrounded with girls and boys his age and they all seemed to be really good friends.
It got me thinking as to why he did not ask any of them for help? It can be difficult to speak with one’s parents but speaking with friends is much easier. He knew he was much loved by so many of his friends but I wonder what stopped him from talking to them. Was it because he did not know how to put his feelings into words, like I do sometimes? Or was it because he didn’t want to be seen as ‘weird’ or ‘weak’? I will never know. What I do know is that most of us are happy to be asked for help. There is a part of us that wants to make a difference to others and help in whatever way we can.
“Call for help.” is one of the first things to do in a crisis management in medicine. Irrespective of the number of years of experience behind the practitioner, calling for help is highly recommended. It brings in a fresh pair of eyes that might see things differently. It also brings in the previous experience and knowledge of another person.
It is our Ego that stops us from asking for help. Ego is a sense of separateness – You and Me.
We are not separate.We are one big consciousness. We are here to help each other.
Writing this blog helps me. The fact that you read it helps me too. Thank you.