What to do to help someone who is suicidal?
- Ensure your own personal safety.
- Call Emergency services if they are threatening to jump. Observe from a safe place till help arrives.
- Either stay with them or arrange for someone to do so while they are get through the immediate crisis.
- Seek immediate help: GP/Phone 999/ A&E(not sure if that’s the best environment for them but trust your judgement on that)/ Call NHS 111 service for information and advise/ call Samaritans/ Remove the means if possible eg. pills.
- Discourage them from taking any more drink/drugs if they are consuming those things.
- Encourage them to talk – listen without judgement/ be polite and respectful/ do not deny their feelings/ do not give advise. Give reassurance that help is available and that they have other options.
- Ask them about what support they have – who can help them?
In a nutshell, seek professional help at once and DO NOT leave them until the help is in place.
What not to do?
- Try not to act shocked as this creates distance
- Don’t make small the intensity of their feelings
- Don’t analyse their motives
- Don’t argue or lecture
- Don’t make fun of them / use guilt to stop them
- Don’t be sworn to secrecy – CONFIDENTIALITY NEVER APPLIES TO SUICIDE.