A Blessing.

Someone shows you the mirror without knowing he’s doing it

God knows now and then you need to look into it

Who holds you as if our very existence depended on it

Who is willing to lose the world as if all that mattered was you

Who arrives from another town in the wee hours of the morning, lighting you up

Whose voice and touch form the rhythms of your life as you listen with your eyes closed

Who sings with you believing he can’t sing not knowing he’s doing a sterling job

Who anticipates the little things you worry about like the eggs running out

Who reminds you to take your meds in time

Who steps on an unknown path with you without a doubt that everything will be fine

Who gives his breath to your voice so you can be heard far and wide

Who sees all your brave attempts at hiding the things that hurt

Who says thank you to the green mint before picking a few leaves from it

Who chooses to walk beside you as if regardless of terrain life was a long walk

Who holds your hands in his knowing the precious gems of another love inside your fist

Who knows these gems bring sparkling tears and you will never let them go

Who loves you back as if you were the only woman in the world

As if love was the only substance the world was made of

Some say God gives with one hand and takes away with another.

I see Her giving with both hands open, leaning into me

Do we really need another one?

No one reads books anymore they say.

Publishing is a dying industry they say and I love books. I know hundreds of people who do.

Presently I am in the world of trying to get a book published. I am witnessing an interesting phenomenon of humane, helpless and kind rejections such as this: “We think you are an emotive writer and your story is very moving. It would undoubtedly provide comfort to those who have lost children, whether by suicide or otherwise. But there is so much work that goes into publishing a book and we have to believe that it can work commercially to a certain degree. I worry that it would be very difficult to get media attention/reviews and therefore retailer traction in this case.”

These letters leave me strangely encouraged to persist and keep refining the manuscript, keep working on the craft of writing and keep remembering what this is about. I write in singular first person but denote the third person plural. I am They, Them, We.

It’s about kissing the ground that supports my weight. It is where my son, all my ancestors and circumstances stand in me through all the seasons and storms. In every moment, it is and has been my home whether I like it or not. It tells me who I am and how, from my very foundations I can hold a conversation with life even when it seems terribly treacherous. Strangely, it is also a place of grace that surprises me by its ability to humble and elevate me, even after being dragged through the mud. It enables me to step off onto a softer ground of gentle understanding where grief finds expression as what it truly is, pure love, often known by safer names such as compassion and connection. I kiss this wise ground that has taught me what it means to be free, be love and be human.

One way or another, I am sure my words will find their way to those with whom they will resonate. If you have any helpful ideas around publishing, please do write a comment. Thank you for reading. This blog is the birthplace of the book.