Day 769

Oxford dictionary definition of ‘tribe’ is –
“A social division in a traditional society consisting of families or communities linked by social, economic, religious, or blood ties, with a common culture and dialect, typically having a recognised leader.”

Modern societies are diverse, cosmopolitan and fluid. Tribes and their leaders are not fixed. Leadership is made out to be something much bigger than ourselves when in fact it is embedded in things we do that have a fundamental impact on other lives while we are unaware of that impact. We are just being ourselves – kind and compassionate, funny and silly.

Marianne Williamson said that our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate but that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us.

One of Saagar’s flatmates was a hidden singer. One day he invited her to join his band for rehearsals and see how she felt. They casually asked her to sing with them, which she did. Soon she became a star in their band. She sang beautifully at his memorial and recounted this story to me.

We need to value the impact we have on each other’s lives more than money, power, influence and titles. We need to create opportunities for one another, acknowledge it when someone else adds to our life, thank them for it and pay it forward.

This is our tribe and in our own special way, we all are leaders.

Ref: http://www.ted.com/talks/drew_dudley_everyday_leadership#t-311634

Day 766

“I have only a story and my belief in the power of story to save us.”
– by Bruce Weigl.

“We are beings who require language to be. It is an existential imperative that people share stories. Indeed, the human experience is contingent upon the interaction of stories.”
– by Frances Driscoll, a survivor of rape and a writer with the power to heal through poetry as a way to process pain, giving voice to the voiceless.

Island of the Raped Women

There are no paved roads here
And all of the goats are well-behaved.
Mornings, beneath thatched shelters,
we paint wide-brimmed straw hats.
We paint them inside and outside.

We paint very very fast.
Five hats a morning.
We paint very very slow.
One hat a week.
All of our hats are beautiful
and we all look beautiful in our hats.

Afternoons, we take turns:
mapping baby crabs moving in and out of sand,
napping, baking.
We make orange and almond cake.
This requires essence and rind.
Whipped cream. Imagination.
We make soft orange cream.
This requires juice of five oranges and juice of one lemon.
(Sometimes we substitute lime for the lemon. This is also good.)

An enamel lined pan.
Four egg yolks and four ounces of sugar.
This requires careful straining,
Constant stirring, gentle whisking.
Watching for things not to boil.
Waiting for things to cool. We are good at this.
We pour our soft orange cream into custard cups.
We serve this with sponge cake.

Before dinner, we ruffle pink sand from one another’s hair.
This feels wonderful and we pretend to find the results interesting.
We all eat in moderation
and there is no difficulty swallowing.
We go to bed early.
(Maybe, we even turn off lights. Maybe, we even sleep naked. Maybe.)
We all sleep through the night.

We wake eager from dreams
filled with blue things and designs for hats.
At breakfast, we make a song,
Chanting our litany of so much collected blue.
We do not talk of going back to the world.

We talk of something else sweet to try with the oranges: Sponge custard.
Served with thick cream or perhaps with raspberry sauce.
We paint hats. We paint hats.

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