Day 420

A young lady I met recently is doing a Doctorate(PhD) in ‘Resilience’. It seems to be the new buzzword. I think it is much misunderstood. According to the dictionary :

resilience
rɪˈzɪlɪəns/
noun

  1. the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.

“nylon is excellent in wearability, abrasion resistance and resilience”

       2. the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

“the often remarkable resilience of so many British institutions”

Toughness?

It is much more complex than that.

“…it is a multifaceted construct, referring to a person’s capacity to handle environmental difficulties, demands and high pressure without experiencing negative effects.” (Kinman and Grant, 2011)

Dr Ginsburg describes it as a skill that can be taught and learnt – the 7 ‘C’s of resilience:

      1. Competence: Being careful that our desire to protect someone doesn’t mistakenly send a message that we don’t think they are competent in handling the situation.
      2. Confidence: Recognition and honest praise for a job well done.
      3. Connection: Close family and community ties providing a safe environment for expression of all emotions
      4. Character: developing a set of values by example, helping the child recognize himself or herself as a caring person.
      5. Contribution: stressing the importance of serving others by modeling generosity.
      6. Coping: Not condemning a child for bad behavior but helping them with positive ways of managing stress.
      7. Control: Empower the child by making them see that they can make a difference by the actions they take.

Simple! 😉

In the past I have taken some very tough decisions. I carried them through to my own detriment. That was damaging. Now I know it was not resilience. It was lack of self-awareness and foolhardiness of youth.

“The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.”
― Robert Jordan

One thought on “Day 420

  1. I can agree with ‘the foolhrdiness of youth’ feel I have made mistakes in youthful exhuberance. How do I feel about resiliance surviving Claire’s death…all takes on a different meaning…too complicated to contemplate it.

    Marie

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